Keeping yourself together means managing your emotions, actions, and reactions in life’s various situations:

🔍 Analyze your thoughts.

When angry or hurt, thoughts can become irrational. Take time to reflect and ask: “Is this logical?” Consider the other person’s perspective and the importance of the issue. Ask yourself, “Is this a life-or-death matter or a minor disagreement?” Rational thinking helps diffuse overreactions.

⏸️ Hit reset.

Pause the disagreement early. Research shows the first three to five minutes of a conversation shape what follows. If things escalate, say, “This is heading in the wrong direction. Let’s start over.”

🧊 Cool down before addressing issues.

Anger triggers chemical reactions in the brain. Allow yourself to calm down before tackling problems.

💬 Express emotions constructively.

Shouting won’t help you process feelings. The more you vent your anger, the stronger it grows.

📚 Develop emotional intelligence.

Learn to understand and manage your emotions as well as those of others. This skill enhances your relationships and self-awareness.